Updated: Mar 5, 2018
Parties are about fun, you want people to be happy and relaxed. I know this sounds like an obvious statement but sometimes we lose sight of this and we transform the experience into a nightmare!
I know, I've been there... we want to create the most memorable experience possible.
Either is your wedding or your kid's birthday party you want it to be PERFECT. And then we give ourselves a mountain of work and we have to depend on people for the flowers, the music, if you are the one making the cake then you have this ultimate creation in mind that is going to take you 2 days to make...
So, we end up stressing ourselves and everybody around us that's naïve enough to help and then the day of the party we are already exhausted. We don't really enjoy it, some things are not going to be perfect and then we're going to end up feeling frustrated and angry.
The worst part is that we project our feelings to every person attending the party, so they will get those stress vibes as well.
If you don't want to end up wasting a lot of time and money preparing a party that you won't enjoy then you have to read this:
-Nothing is ever perfect-
Things don't have to be perfect to be fun and memorable, actually some mishaps can make the party more memorable.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not telling you that is good to be mediocre but we have to remember that life is messy, life is full of surprises and turns and that's what makes it fun.
You can't control everything and everyone that goes to your party and if you attempt to do this you will make the experience a nightmare and then the next time you organize a party you will have a lot of people making all sorts of excuses as to why they can't attend.
“Was it a bad day? Or was it a bad five minutes that you milked all day?” —Unknown”
Let's say that there was one thing that went wrong in your party, you need to have enough energy to fix the situation or to find an alternative. After you do this, you have to move on. Let it go like Elsa says. Don't let the one or two things that went wrong in your party ruin the entire experience. Remember it's a party! party=fun.
If it's your wedding you need to enjoy it and be happy, not stress about what goes next and why something is taking extra time or if the flowers are withering. Just focus on the good things. If it's your kid's party they will enjoy it more if they have a happy mommy that is playing with them and being silly, they don't want a thousands of dollars party that is up tight and stressful with angry parents. Just r-e-l-a-x.
If the cake doesn't look like the one you saved on Pinterest it's OK, your kid will appreciate a colorful ninja turtle even if it's crooked. As long as it tastes good and it's full of color they will like it.
The most important thing when you organize a party is to make a fun and relaxed experience, don't ruin the experience by obsessing over details.
Don't put a mountain of work on your shoulders. If you are making the party for a friend or your kid or your husband think of what they like, not what you like, what they like.
Make a list of things to do that would make the experience fun for that person and then start working.
If you have extra time then you can make more things but only if you have that extra time.
And remember that we can't control the traffic, the weather, sickness, accidents, sudden migraines, etc.
Another thing to keep in mind is to avoid copying what someone else did for their party and then getting frustrated when it doesn't work to perfection. Try to be original and true to yourself, to your talents.
Another thing to consider is that when you organize a party try to invite the people that actually cares. I've been in so many parties and they have been full of people who barely know the couple (if it's a wedding), or they don't really care or they don't have kids and/or they don't even like kids (if it's your kid's party).
So my humble advice to you is to avoid doing this because those people who don't really care or don't really want to be there but for some reason felt obligated, are going to change the dynamic of the whole thing.
They are going to affect the overall feeling of your party and not in a good way. :(
It's much better to have a party with 15 people who actually care and are happy to be there than a party with 30 people with 15 of them judging everything and creating a bad cloud over the party.
Don't feel obligated to invite people, this can ruin all your hard work and dedication.
I hope this little article helps you relax if you are in the middle of organizing a party.
My wish to you is that you have great parties in your future!